Lets Make It Better

25 ways to be Happy in Life

2010-04-22T17:23:00.001+05:30

1.Marry the right person. This decision will determine the 90% of your happiness and misery.

2.Work at something you enjoy and worthy your time and talent

3.Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

4.Become most enthusiastic and positive person you know.

5.Be forgiving for yourself and others.

6.Be generous.

7.Be yourself.

8.Have a great Heart.

9.Persistence, Persistence and persistence.

10.Discipline yourself to save money even with modest salary.

11.Treat everyone you meet as you want to be treated.

12.Commit yourself to constant improvement.

13.Commit yourself to Quality.

14.Understand that happiness is not in possessions, power and relationship but within people you love and respect.

15.Be loyal

16.Be Honest.

17.Be self – starter.

18.Be decisive even if it means you'll be wrong.

19.Stop blaming others, Take responsibility of every area of your life.

20.Be bold and courageous, when you look back at your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than ones you did.

21.Take care of those you love.

22.Don't do any thing that wouldn't make your Mom proud.

23.Close your eyes and smile sometime.

24.Thank to GOD for every meal you eat.

25.Try to be honest with yourself.

And its new year again!

2009-12-31T16:28:00.002+05:30

And we learn...

2009-08-17T09:06:00.006+05:30

Hey Friends,

Before starting this blog,let me add a disclaimer that this one is going to be a long one and u might be bored :).

I often feel life is a journey with continuous learning..I know everyone would agree with me on this.I also think Life is the only teacher who teaches about itself in its own ways and while the life was busy teaching itself to me ,I met few wonderful people who have taught me something or the other(knowingly or unknowingly) which has made my thinking better,my life better, my way of looking upon this world better...

This blog is a dedication to all those people who taught me something on the way so far.this is not in any order, just mentioned names as they came to my mind.. here it goes :)

Anu - one my best friends,who has been with me through the thick and thin,taught me how to save money :)..most valued lesson so far..:)

Ashwini - though she was known as the most impatient and restless girl in my hostel,my room mate for 3 years taught me patience unknowingly,i must say she was the girl with utmost patience who would never say anything to anyone no matter what anyone told her,did to her or commented on her.

Monica - my first room mate in hostel who was my senior taught me determination in her own ways.

Vaibhav - My colleague who turned my best friend in no time, taught me to blog(else this post would not have been here),along with lot of other things he taught me to aim higher and he taught me how to strategise..(which i am still learning).

Vani - she is one lively girl who lives life on her own terms taught me that taking risks is the only way of living.i learnt that there is no thrill in life if u don't take risks from her..

Deepak - No matter how old you are, its fine to be kiddish :)..that's how he is.. and that's what he has taught me... :

Gowtham - along with teaching me eating ice creams in rain, he has taught me to listen to my heart.

Farah - My confider taught me to love myself.!

Deepa - my junior in hostel who is one of my best friends, taught me how to give unconditonal love..

Kiran - He taught me to be myself!i learnt to talk my mind and heart out without inhibition from him...

Kavitha - My senior at office with whom i worked for first 2 and half years taught me dedication,looking at the bigger picture!

Mahesh - my mentor for the last six months, along with teaching me java and inumerable lessons has taught me the share market basics..(i know hundred people who are into share market but he was the first one to start teaching me :))

Venki - one of my best friends who is lively and cheerful 24/7 taught me to Trust and Hope!I have learnt that its the biggest strength in life!

Romeo - my 3 months old puppy, the most adorable pup ever, before going away taught me compassion for animals and motherly love :)...

I thank all of you..KUDOS to all you guys..:)

I know there is no end to the list, but these are the few most memorable ones.Of course i have not included my sisters and parents from whom i have learnt most of life's lessons (most valuable)because there are no words to describe them.
Also i might have not mentioned few names either because i have forgotten or i think its not appropriate to mention here,sorry for that...

This one is way of saying thanks to all those who have made my life better....

Love ,
Deepika

Hope!

2009-07-02T09:39:00.003+05:30

Never talk defeat. Use words like hope, belief, faith, victory. -- Norman Vincent Peale

Practice hope. As hopefulness becomes a habit, you can achieve a permanently happy spirit. -- Norman Vincent Peale

Hope makes things work.Hope gives strength to take a step forward.Hope makes u give your best.Hope leads you to victory.Hope lets you win.Hope makes Life Better.

Always remember Some day everything will make perfect sense,so for now laugh through the confusion,smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason and the reason is always good..!

Cheers,
Deepika

something out of place ! tagged !

2009-06-16T12:47:00.005+05:30

I was tagged by one of my blogger friends,here it goes..

I am thinking...
How do i make things alright which i think have gone wrong!

I said...
A few things which I wish, I hadn't.

I want...
to watch a nice movie.

I wish...
I had stopped working,yet get considerable amount every month to fulfill all the needs

I miss...
the rainy days of last year(reason is a secret)

I hear...
right now..its vanessa hudgens' when its not alright(say Ok)!

I wonder...
if all stories have a happy ending.

I regret...
not doing things i am capable of.

I am...
yet another human being,who is simple yet complicated,unique yet so much like you

I dance...
everytime i feel like..

I sing...
thru out the day...(my poor sister bears me!)

I cry...
when I feel helpless,sad or touched.

I am not...
a pretender

I write...
because i need to store my thoughts somewhere.

I confuse...
no one, i'm pretty clear about what I think and speak.

I need...
a vacation :) (or a outing)

I should...
get my driving licence as soon as possible.

I finish...
this tag without skipping any question..(yay!)

I tag anybody who comes across this and finds it interesting!

See the difference

2009-03-19T16:14:00.006+05:30

Hello buddies,

Not too late this time... but I had some things in mind which I wanted to share for quite a long time now... Have tried to jot it down here..

In the busy life, we often forget how something can make a difference; we fail to notice the happiness that we ourselves can create. here are few of them, when just noticed can bring a huge difference, we just need to see it in the right perspective. You can see a difference when you,

1. Listen
- Never just hear to what other are saying, try and listen to it, often people are busy compiling their talk when the other person is talking..avoid it as much as possible.. Only when you really keep quite to listen to some one, it makes a diference!

2. Appreciate and compliment
- learn to appreciate, when ever you feel there is some one going out of their way to achieve something, when you feel a person is doing more than what he should, when some one has done a good job(irrespective of magnitude) appreciate it.. Let him know u do so... Compliment generously, but be genuine...tell some one if they are loooking nice,tell some one if U like some quality in them(do not concentrate on things u dislike) and see the difference.

3. Encourage
- Small words of encouragement can change some one's life... encourage when ever u feel there is a need.. it cud be some one's new attempt, encourage some one's dream.. It might indeed make the person go ahead.(PS: if someone believes he can achive something,and even if you know its next to impossible, do not discourage!)

4. Value
- Value other's time, other's feelings, especially of your own family and friends, b’coz they need you the most, never take them for granted. Learn to say "take care", "I love you” as often as possible. It does make a difference. Spend time laughing with them. Let them know u care, let them know u love, let them know u need them.
But don’t try to make everyone around you happy. Accept that's its not gonna happen.. Value the happiness of those who matters to you...learn to ignore things that make no difference to you, but do learn to differentiate between the two!

5. Understand
- I know it’s not always easy... And it’s not always necessary too. But when it’s needed try!
Only way to do..."Put yourself in their shoes and think what you would have done if you were in their place"...for sure.. it can help a great deal...
so many things just get solved by understanding the situation!

Again, this is purely based on my perception... may be its helpful, may be its not..
Following this has made my life better in some way, hope it does for you too...

Friends, this time while commenting, please add at least one thing which might be tiny but yet can make difference...

Love,
Deepika

Everyone is special!

2009-03-13T15:56:00.007+05:30

Hey friends,

After the year ended 3 months back, Now I get some time to retrospect the achievements of last year.. Well, No significant achievements, no awards, No major success, for a while I wondered did I live last year? Or I just existed?...
Have you come across the same situation, have you felt life is standing still...
Have you felt you are not doing anything important, have you felt you are of little importance?..Hmmm... Not really...
We often tend to ignore the small achievements in the pursuit of the bigger success.
we forget that everything is important, every small thing achieved is a success, a job change, a project finished, a new friend made, a new hobby discovered, a help you offered which changed some one's life, a smile that you brought on your loved ones' face, realizing your life needs a change (and you implemented it, amazing!), you made some one realize that they mean a lot to you, great.. Everything is success. I’m sure you would have done hundreds of those.. Do you know "you are special”. At least everyone I know has done at least one of the above.. :)

Of course, the long term goals are important, make sure you achieve them. But never ignore the little ones that have actually led you to achieve the bigger one.

"dont be afraid to give your best at what seemingly are small jobs,Everytime You conquer one it makes you that much stronger.If you do little jobs well, the bigger ones tend to take care of themselves" -Dale Carneige

Start measuring the success now, start realizing today how important you are. Sometimes it’s necessary to feel on your own that you are special, because only you are responsible for making yourself happy! And if you try you will always succeed in making life better and this world a better place to be in...

cheers,
Deepika

Make space for new things!

2008-11-17T14:58:00.003+05:30

Think ……..

Have you got the habit of hoarding useless objects, thinking that one day, who knows when, you may need them ?

Have you got the habit of accumulating money , and not spending it because you think that in the future you may be in want of it?

Have you got the habit of storing clothes, shoes, furniture, utensils and other home supplies that you haven’t used already for some time?

And inside yourself...? Have you got the habit to keep reproaches, resentment, sadness, fears and more?

Don’t do it! You are going against your prosperity!

It is necessary to make room, to leave an empty space in order to allow new things to arrive to your life.

It is necessary that you get rid of all the useless things that are in you and in your life, in order to prosperity to arrive.

The force of this emptiness is one that will absorb and attract all that you wish.

As long as you are, materially or emotionally, holding old and useless feelings, you won’t have room for new opportunities

Goods must circulate....

Clean your drawers, the wardrobes, the workshop, the garage...

Give away what you don’t use any longer...

The attitude of keeping a heap of useless stuff ties your life down.

It’s not the objects you keep that stagnate your life...

but rather the attitude of keeping...

When we keep in store, we consider the possibility of wanting, of penury..

we believe that tomorrow it may lack, and that we won’t be able to fulfil those necessities..

With that idea, you are sending two messages to your brain and to your life:

That you don’t trust tomorrow...

and you think that the new and the better are not for you,
For this reason you cheer yourself up by storing old and useless stuff.

Get rid of what lost its colour and brightness...

Let the new enter your home...

and yourself.

courtesy: forwarded email from a friend.

sure it will make your life better, it made mine!..

love,
Deepika

Think Happy!

2008-09-15T08:47:00.005+05:30

Hey friends,

Being happy is ultimate goal of life...In one way or the other everything we do is to create happiness in some way!..but we often end up at one expression "are we really happy ?" though some people are smart enough to understand if they are really happy or not! some people end up in unclosed loop of confusion...
and for those who think are not happy, the pursuit of happiness never ends!

well, I'm gonna keep this post short!.. This one is purely based on my perception and I don't know how true this is.. but I feel one cannot be happy unless he starts to think so...you are what you think!
So start thinking today that you are happy :) and you will attract happiness...I know its not easy to begin with, but its possible..may be the easiest way is to start with auto-Suggestion and you know what, if you start thinking you are happy and content, situations would mould up in such a way to brings happiness your way!(I have experienced this)..and if you are happy you emit happiness, which makes people around you happy!(one easy way to make others happy)

So instead of phrases like "be happy" "don't worry" etc etc... I would Say "THINK HAPPY" ..and start making life better!...

cheers,
Deepika

Is it really the coffee?.....

2008-08-08T09:52:00.000+05:30

Hey friends!
I often write posts based on some conversations with friends,loved ones.. rather i get ideas to write when am conversing with some one.... this one is all about the trigger point for conversation... yeah you are right.. its "can we have a coffee together" statement... thats where all the converstaions starts..

Having coffee might just be a reason to spend time with some one, or it could be the other way round too.. but ultimately the outcome is always the same.. you come out relaxed,refreshed,rejuvenated...!

Trust me a small cup of coffee or tea, can bring back all the energy instantly when you are tired, when you are low... it really does.. atleast to me!

what wonders me is how having coffee with some one never gets boring, no matter how many times you go to the same place and drink the same coffee...
whether its coffee corner in office,Barista,the simple coffee in RMZ,Infinitea or Cafe coffee day.....I never wonder why am i going to the same place again and again...
whether its my fav Iced tea,cafe frappe,filter coffee... or the new green tea tried in Infinitea..It always leaves me happy at the end!

I'm really not sure, is it the caffeine or the stimulating conversation that gets you going!:)

My dearest friend has already written about this in his blog,.... and I thought I shouldnt write the same thing again.. but I could not resist writing something that is so much an integral part of my life...

"A lot can happen over coffee" is so true..
I always end up learning something new, something nice,if not anything i pour my heart out and feel relieved when i have a conversation with my dear ones(gets better when its coupled with coffee)..I'm sure, its gona work out he same with you too.. Give it a try.. it will for sure make your life a little better!

Find a reason today.. it could be drinking coffee, or it could be just be spending time.. :)

cheers,
Deepika

Be what you want others to be..........

2008-06-02T10:08:00.000+05:30

hey friends,

we often discuss about the traffic problem we face in Bangalore... everybody has a view as to how to improve this... trust me everyone!well this post is not about improving traffic sense in us... (i plan to write a post on that soon with Ashwin's advice)... but about something else..... traffic was an example i chose to explain this topic "be what you want others to be"..... we often say, "people don't follow rules , that's why we face so many traffic jams".... but how many times we ourselves cross the yellow line make things worse for people on the other side..

I'm sure, now you know what I want to say…...for example,

If you are some one who doesn't like being questioned, check if you are not questioning someone!

If you are some one who does not like being ordered, be sure, u are not ordering some one else...

If you are some one who feels bad if some one is not appreciating your efforts, be the one you want others to be..start appreciating!

Its a simple rule ,don't do what you don't want others to do! or behave like what you want others to behave!Probably its very tough to implement but for sure makes life very much better.......if not anything, at least you'll realise how tough it is not to do what you don't want others to do....

what do you think?......

cheers,

Deepika.

Life will be indeed boring without risks.

2008-05-06T15:48:00.000+05:30

Hey friends,

Recently I had a conversation with one of my colleague who has turned out to be a dearest pal,all through the conversation I was cribing, that I made a mistake and ended up making wrong choice,when she said" how will u ever learn if you dont make mistakes , and life is all abt risks, else there is no thrill".

I felt she was so right, often we are so scared of taking a step ahead,i dont know how is it with others , but it has happened with me.. Its true that we end up trusting wrong people,choosing wrong job,making wrong investments,etc etc. and we regret for doing it! but at the end isnt it all worth, dont we end up learning something out of it.

Its also true that, we get hurt , we feel bad when things go wrong, but its just the way we see, it hardly takes sometime to realise that its just a matter of time and we have always gained something out of it!...(and there is always a way out of it!)

I dont mean that we should not be careful,but sometimes its fine if we go wrong, mistakes are not always bad! :).. and taking risks makes life more exciting...

next time something goes wrong,(could be a new recipe :P) dont feel bad, just tell yourself that you took a risk and tried something!there is always a second chance......

Ultimately it makes life better! we just need to realise it!.....

cheers,

Deepika.

small change can make a lot of difference.........

2008-03-14T16:14:00.000+05:30

hey people,

i know its a long time.........just that i got so busy with my life... responsibilities dint give me time for anything else.... i got so carried away with it, that i forgot that i need to do something to make myself happy... life had become mechanical..."work.. eat... sleep" ...so monotonous..

and then i made a little effort.. things changed radically....i just made a small change in me...

you can also try this... make a little change in life, that can make you happy.. atleast give a try.. it can be anything... may be you can talk to a stranger,make a new friend,visit a temple,learn a new craft,drink a cup of coffee with some one you love, how about learning driving this time, go for shopping(dont care about the money you are going to spend.. trust me it will make you happy),try a new recipe, read a new book...

it has made me happy.. and i feel this is going to make you happy too...

lets try make ourselves a little happy!

let me know, if this is making life a little better...and if a small change can make a lot of difference.......

cheers

Deepika

Stay Colorful!!

2007-10-29T11:55:00.000+05:30

Hi all,
Some one asked me why did I chose this template for my Blog, and I said green is my lucky color :D ... so I chose this one….did u know that each color has a psychological effect,each color is associated with some emotions and we have a strong reaction to each color.I read some where that Military uniforms are intentionally colored to give statement and impose authority,did u know babies cry most often, in yellow rooms,Its advised to avoid wearing blue colors when u are depressed,purple is associated with royalty and Cleopatra loved purple color, Green is the easiest color on the eye and it causes people to relax,Therefore hospital rooms are often green. Red increases the appetite, so Many restaurants are decorated in red.
when we know the reactions associated with each color,it can give a set of guidelines for flattering effect of your clothes. Like for example
Black is associated with mysterious, sophisticated, glum, deadly
blue with Serene, calming, cool, quiet,freshness
brown with Warm, earthy, drabgray with subtle, dignified, cold
green with Fresh, successful, loving, greedy
orange with Happy, cheerful, new, motivated
pink with sensual,Soft, innocent, delicate, feminine, delicious
red with Alert, warning, sexual, aggressive, energetic, cheerful, angry, vital, exciting
violet with Royal, rich, stately, passionate, subtle but sexy, impressive, alone
white with Clean, pure, young, safe, simple
yellow with Sunny, bright, hopeful, optimistic, joyful....
Next time keep these point in mind before You shop for clothes..
Wear the right color to brighten up ur day.When u wear the right color, it will make ur each day a more cheerful one and helps u stay up in energy all the time.
Hope this makes your each day a little Better!
stay colorful friends….

Care....
Deepika.

First Step

2007-10-26T11:27:00.000+05:30

Hi there,
This is my first blog! well wait a minute!how can it be, does that mean , i havent written anything over these years.. not exactly... writing is something I do when I have no one around me to talk to,or something i just want to share it with some one, but I dont know whom to tell it to,or something I want to share and dont need any suggestion from anybody regarding that, but I just want some one to listen to me, or may be I cannot decide whom I could trust with the matter i have to tell....Its strange but relief just follows when I finish scribbling over the paper.I'm sure lot of people are just like me... They love people around, they dont dare to hurt the people they love,they want to say something but dont know how to go ahead, or sometimes life gets so tedious, confusing and dont know whom to look up for an answer..So why not try a simple trick I assure you this helps a lot, just scribble over a paper what ever you want say, you can address it anyone you like, call it a letter, or a note.. just write what you like. when you are done trust me you feel more strong, you wud have got answers to your questions,because your mind is much stronger, much smarter than you think, it knows everything,it knows what you exactly want, by the time you finish writing, your mind will answer all the question you were just wondering where to get them from..May be this is wat is called 'HEALING POWER OF HUMAN BRAIN'.. After its done, its left to you, what you want to do with it, tear it, burn it, throw it, treasure it, hide it, show it to some one... its totally left to you..
But all that I can assure is it will make your life better.give it a try!

care...
Deepika